These days, some ladies who want a man really badly for
themselves may want to trap him with a baby. If you are one of such
women, you may have to think about your decision again.
Is it okay to Baby Trap your boyfriend and bring a child into this
world just to satisfy a goal? Apparently some women think this is the
thing to do these days. Am I just old fashioned in believing things
should happen naturally?
A woman was actually planning – yes, planning in detail – to fall
pregnant to her boyfriend by the end of the year without him knowing.
Her reasons? Because she was 28, and her goal for the last 10 years was
to have a baby by the age of 30.
They had been together for a year or two and had not really discussed
having children. Is it okay to do that? Here are some questions you
might want to ask yourself before you go ahead and Baby Trap your
boyfriend:
1. Why Do You Want a Baby?
If you are planning to have a baby to save your relationship, think
it will be fun, or to satisfy a whim, then think again very carefully. A
baby is not a toy or animal that you can give away when you’ve had
enough. It is a little person who deserves to be loved, cherished,
educated, and happy. Babies cost money. Babies cry. Babies need
attention (sometimes all night). Babies get sick. And sometimes, there
is no one around to help you.
Sure, they are cute and will love you unconditionally in the early
years, but they need loving parents. Parents who have talked discussed
and decided upon creating a life together, parents who have shared and
respected each other’s thoughts and opinions about parenthood. Accidents
happen (my best friend had a beautiful accident), but they should never
be ‘planned’ accidents.
2. What Happens When He Finds Out He’s Been Manipulated?
How do you think he is going to feel once he finds out that this
pregnancy is based on a lie? How detrimental to your relationship is
this going to be? If you are trying to save a failing relationship and
he finds out you have orchestrated this baby, there is little chance he
will want to be with you. He will feel lied to, cheated, manipulated and
trapped. He may decide he will stay for the baby’s sake, but if he
does, it’s going to be a long, hard road until the two of you can come
together in love again. You will have broken his trust.
3. Who is Going to Be There for You if he Leaves?
What if he finds out and never forgives you? Or even worse: What if
he leaves you?! Sure, he may still provide for you financially, but he
is not going to be there for you in the middle of the night when your
baby has a raging temperature or is crying. He is not going to be on
hand to help change nappies, do the extra washing, help with the feeding
or hug you when you feel too overwhelmed.
Your mom, sister, or best friend will be there to help you whenever
they can, but unless you are living with them, it’s unlikely they will
be there when you really need them, such as in the middle of the night.
And if you decide you need extra money and want to work, who’s going to
look after your baby when you are out earning the money? Or when they
are sick?
Consider Your Decision Carefully
It may be a nice thought, falling pregnant, your fella doing
cartwheels around the street, and you two growing old together with more
kids and grandchildren, but the probability of that happening is slight
– if he has no say in it.
Children are wonderful, beautiful, and amazing beings. Consider your
partner, your future child, and then take a long, hard look at yourself.
Do you really want to Baby Trap someone and bring a baby into a world
based on a lie? Consider your decision carefully. Once you have a baby,
you can’t hand it back.